The traits of self-confidence and personal potential can serve to either enhance or detract from the overall quality of your life. Depending on how they are harnessed from within, a surplus can either have positive or negative effects while a lack of the two certainly does not stand much chance of being of benefit to the individual.
How are these traits nurtured and what sets the tone for the relative amount that will ensue? A typical starting place in one’s life begins with the environment at home. Did the parents take an active role in providing positive praise and encouragement for the child or were they non-supportive and belittling? What was the “energy” that was directed to the child? Was it a “you can do it!” or “you are no good so why do you try?” type of dose of emotion that was administered? Too often people are taught to be afraid of failure while other individuals are instilled with the belief that it’s okay to fail and that one should not stop trying to achieve their aim.
Other inner beliefs that can be brought to bear on the resulting self-confidence and personal potential are whether not one perceives themselves to be a good person and whether or not he or she is a capable person. These can be fostered as a result of external positive emotional stimulus or one’s self-generated inner philosophy. From my observations as a parent as well as a mentor/coach, the impact on the outcomes from external emotional stimulus can be immense! Why leave things to chance that person who is continuously bombarded with ridicule and harsh criticism will emerge for the better when there is such a greater chance that will result as a result of showering someone with “good vibrations (any Beach Boys fans?).” This is not to say that constructive criticism does not have it’s place when applied properly. Also, a person’s overall persona should include the ability to handle such feedback in a positive manner.
So what if you are one of the individuals who found themselves in an environment that dumped nothing but negative emotions and comments upon you? How do you shake the grips of those chains that have their hold upon your psyche? What do you do when your feelings of self-confidence and personal potential (you can also call it self-worth) are practically non-existent? Well my take on this question applies to anything that can be causing you harm or discomfort; get away from it! Are you getting a sunburn from being outside too long? Get away from it and go inside! Is being in a room where a bunch of people are smoking making you sick? Get away from it and go somewhere else! Do you find yourself with people who attempt to lower your self-confidence and feeling of personal potential by saying mean things to you? Go find some different people to congregate with.
Of course in extreme cases, seeking out professional help or the aid of a trusted friend may be necessary. Even those who do overall feel that they are okay may actually stand to benefit from some additional guidance. I myself am working on a couple of “inner-demons” but I have every confidence that they will be shaken!
Everyone and I mean everyone, regardless of what people say be it positive or negative, deserves the benefits that come to fruition in their life as a result of a high level of self-confidence and personal potential.
The other day I had the pleasure of watching an episode of Driving with John Chow. These are occasional videos on YouTube put on by the legendary blogger John Chow. In his segments he gives various pieces of advice that always prove very informative. The episode “The 1 Thing You Must Have That Will Make You Rich,” he highlights the importance of desire.
Why is desire important? It is the fire that motivates the individual to action. Desire is the attribute that pushes you to take the steps needed to achieve results. After having my family live in an apartment following my retirement from the military, I was very much in desire to moving to more spacious surroundings. I was not satisfied with my circumstances at the time and I was not going to settle for my family living in an apartment for the long term. The amount of my desire was directly proportional to the focus that I was giving (my wife was also focused on the goal to family out of an apartment and into a house) to the thought of getting relocated.
As a result of persistence and steadfast effort, the goal of moving into a new home was realized! What a difference it made in our lives. But as for any goal or aspiration, the amount of desire that is found within is the driving force for moving forward to ultimate achievement. It boils down to “how bad do you want it?” It’s one thing to say you want this or that but are you willing to carry out the actions needed in order to achieve your results? Are you willing to dig in and remain for the long haul or will the first stumbling block be all that it takes for you to give up?
Now there are some things to consider when viewing your goals. Some good guidance to keep in mind is the SMART acronym when considering goal achievement. The letters stand for specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time based. If you have thoughts about squeezing coal with your bare hands to form diamonds, be sure to let me know if you are able to pull this off.
In his book “The Science of Getting Rich,” author Wallace Waddles said to the effect that results require the proper action. But if there is no desire or a lack of desire, the chance of the required action taking place will probably be non-existent.
The 1 Thing You Must Have That Will Make You Rich
For those who aspire to become entrepreneurs, it is essential to remain focused on the desired goals. In addition to having self-discipline, one must also have set priorities that dictate where personal effort is to be directed . Along with clear set priorities, one must also ensure that proper action is being taken with the intent of desired goal achievement. It is also of paramount importance that one learns to manage his or her activities during their hours awake so that they are effective in attaining desired results.
Being as how the amount of time in a day is fixed, how we manage our activities has a profound effect on the rate at which our goals are achieved. Each of us has different goals and desires. In order to engage in their pursuit; we must ask ourselves how committed we are to achieving them. Also in need of consideration are the actions we need to take to bring about the change we seek. In other words, what are we willing to do and how long are we willing to invest in order to ensure that we achieve that which we desire?
An obstacle that faces each one of us is the myriad of daily tasks we deem necessary for accomplishment on a daily basis. Of course their are the daily necessities such as meals, sleep, bathing, work, attending to financial matters, etc. Another obstacle that one may have to deal with is the tendency to get distracted. I myself have had to work on this (still do!) because over the course of time, this can result in many hours lost. Just now, while writing this post, I found myself getting sidetracked with trying to find out about how to program a certain WordPress plugin dealing with footnotes. I immediately had to get myself back “on task” with the writing of this post.
When deciding what to do during the course of any given day, you should ask yourself if the items you plan on accomplishing will help you to achieve your goals? If so, great! If not, maybe it would be a good idea to reevaluate whether or not spending time on them would be a good idea. Simplification in your overall schedule in order to separate the important things from the not so important things may be what’s needed to provide an extra measure of assurance in accomplishing what you truly wish to.
For those of you who find yourself seemingly overwhelmed with things to get done; give some thought to what is mentioned in this post. You may find yourself with extra time you did not know you had as a result.
Earlier this year I read a wonderful book titled “The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed To Transform Your Life (Before 8AM)” by Hal Elrod. The author was involved in a near-fatal car accident that left him with severe brain injuries and his self-mobility was greatly reduced. He underwent a lengthy and painful recovery process while not knowing what life had in store for him in the years to come.
While progressing through his recovery, Elrod learned of the power of affirmations and made a decision to use them to change his life. His first priority was to restore the belief in himself that he was in possession of a good memory. He then went on to develop a self-help model that was designed to help anyone using this model/method to allow people to achieve their goals and dreams in life. The acronym name for this model is “Savers” which stands for silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, readings and scribing (which is intended to mean writing).
The primary concept of this model centers on devoting time to each of the areas outlined in the Savers model at the beginning of the day (an early start such as 6 a.m. is encouraged) so that your mind and body become conditioned to perform at optimum levels in each of these areas so that your personal potential along with chances for the realization of goals and dreams are increased. The author also gives added attention to the need for devoting focus on a daily basis to the areas to the point where the practice becomes habitual in nature and is no longer viewed as a task or drudgery. In addition, specific and detailed examples are provided to help solidify one’s techniques for visualization, creation of affirmations and periods of silence. This helps provide the reader with confidence in knowing that his/her personal actions are not misguided.
So how can a “Miracle Morning” help you as an aspiring entrepreneur? By showing the importance of commitment, consistency and focus; this book can show you how to hone your skills in these vital areas so that increased attention is placed on your “target goals.”
In my opinion, “Miracle Morning” definitely rates as a book that every aspiring entrepreneur needs to add to their must-read list. Robert Kiyosaki (Rich Dad-Poor Dad) definitely gives this book a five-star endorsement!!
Many thanks to Hal Elrod for this gem of a publication.
All the best!
If you are an up and coming entrepreneur with family members, it is important to maintain balance between work and family. Focusing too much on work can lead to feelings of resentment from your family members from a lack of attention. Of course you can tell them that your efforts are with their best interest in mind but statements such as these are not always readily accepted internally.
Such feelings of discourse can result in an amplified state of tension on the family scene and spill over to what you are trying to get done with your entrepreneurial pursuits. They can become cobwebs that get in the way of your concentration and go towards increasing stress levels. I’m sure you will agree that this is not a good thing.
Earlier today I was fortunate to come across and article in Entrepreneur.com that gives 8 tips on how to achieve a state of balance between work and family. If you are currently faced with such a dilemma or know of someone who is; this article will provide you with some good reading. My thanks to the author, Stan Popovich.
8 Ways to Reduce the Stress of Balancing Work and Family
While looking through my wallet, I became aware that one of my credit cards was missing. My first thought was to call the bank and have the credit card cancelled in order to avoid the possibility of any fraudulent charges accumulating. I was persuaded by my wife to sit down and think things out before proceeding further.
The last time that I recalled using the card was earlier in the week at a local bicycle shop where I purchased a helmet. What really surprised me was realizing how much time had elapsed before I realized that I did not have the card in my possession! Bank records showed that there were no unauthorized charges shown as having been made so I was relieved about that.
I spent the next several hours looking for the card. I searched the car, clothes pockets, places where I was known to have left stuff in addition to going to my place of work to see if by chance I had left it there. Maybe I put it in a plastic bag that subsequently went out in the trash. I was even informed by the manager of the bicycle shop that they did not have my card. Needless to say I was mystified over this. My wife suggested that since there was no evidence of the card being in bad hands, I wait a few days prior to calling the bank and cancelling my account. This would involve having to update numerous other accounts that needed my card number for the purposes of automatic bill payments. During the time that this was going on, I was surprised at how well I seemed to be internalizing this.
After arriving at the present day still without possession of the card, I came up with a strange idea. Granted, the manager at the store said my card was not there but what if I asked the person who waited on me? At this point I was thinking that I should leave “no stone unturned” while my search was in progress. I must admit I was a bit concerned at the chance of offending someone at the store since I had already been informed that my card was not there.
I decided to move forward and place a call to the store. I asked to speak with the person who waited on me when I made my purchase and she immediately informed me that they had the card! Of course I was elated at the news and after having stopped at a Panera Bakery en route (I got the person a gift card as a thank you gestured), I got my card back. This was after having been informed earlier that they did not have it.
So if you are ever faced with a situation where it seems like you have exercised all of your options, take some time to stop, think and see if there is anything else you can do; even if the chances appear unlikely. You may be surprised at the result!
All the best!
As we progress into the new year, I would like to share with you the stories of two individuals I came across who declared themselves to be winners. They also had the chance to celebrate victory in the endeavors that they pursued. Were these declarations a key factor in having a direct effect upon the desired result? I can’t say but I don’t think it hurt!
The first person I shall discuss took the name “Captain Awesome” and was a participant in (of all things) a male beauty pageant that raised money for local area women’s charities. At his introduction for the ceremonies, he declared himself to be “awesome” and after engaging in competition with the other contestants in the various contest categories, he was declared the winner.
The next person whose story I would like to share is that of Ahn Hyun-soo, a speed skater from South Korea who went on to skate for Russia under the name Viktor Ahn. Why the name “Viktor”? During the Sochi Winter Olympics, it was revealed that one of the reasons he chose the name was because it referred to victory [1. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Viktor_Ahn ]. Now of course the mere changing of his name was not the sole reason for his Olympic success, Viktor Ahn also subjects himself to a colossal training regimen.
To add further to this concept, I would like to call your attention to the story of former World Heavyweight Boxing Champion Muhammad Ali. He was famous for his saying ” I’m the greatest!” Now he also trained intensively to achieve his level of success but he declared over and over that he was the greatest. He consistently implanted the seeds of greatness in his mind
. Ali, in addition to Viktor Ahn and “Captain Awesome” had winning mindsets.
So if you find yourself facing obstacles in the path to your success, start off by declaring yourself to be a winner! If you are not sure what area to declare yourself a winner in, declare yourself to be a winner in life. Declare yourself to be a winner in the area that you are striving for success. The more you believe something to be true, the closer you come to achieving your desired reality. To examine this mental technique further, I highly recommend that you read “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. In this landmark publication, the author describes the visualization of an event in one’s mind and experiencing the feeling that comes as if it has actually happened. The thought of this can be hard to grasp at first but over the course of time it becomes easier. Think of this whenever you hear someone say “It’s as good as done,” or “It’s in the bag!”
See you in the Winner’s Circle!
So, why should anyone engage in the pursuit of becoming an entrepreneur? Why would someone be willing to put it on the line instead of accepting the security of a regular job? Now don’t get me wrong, if you are content with the regular routine of going to a job and getting a paycheck as a result, that’s great! But what if you aren’t content with that type of arrangement, what are the options?
As with anything, there are the “pluses” and the “minuses.” If you are working for yourself, you don’t have the constraints of having an employer. This in turn leads on to other things such as determining your own work hours, developing your own work environment as well as having a bigger hand in how your run your affairs. You also end up having more of a commodity that cannot be replaced – time.
Having this extra freedom can also coincide with the risks of not having a regular income that could lead to other difficulties (like meeting any financial obligations that you may have). But with the risks come the potential rewards. If you try something, you won’t have the nagging feeling of “what if I…..” that could ensue. You would have the satisfaction of knowing that you at least made the attempt. With this satisfaction, you stand the chance of feeling that you have been living a more fulfilling life. What you end up doing could make a difference in the lives of a great number of people.
Either way, you decide!
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Earlier this year, I watched a movie titled “The Ultimate Gift.” It told the story of a privileged (as in “silver spoon”) young man whose billionaire grandfather had recently passed away. As part of the process of having the will disclosed to the surviving family members, he is presented with a video produced by the grandfather outlining a series of “gifts” that he will be presented with in order for a chance to obtain his portion of the inheritance.
Now the potential beneficiary (Jason) is thinking of the gifts in the traditional sense but by the end of the movies comes to realize that the gifts are indeed beliefs that can be attained which will result in transformation to becoming a better person.
At the conclusion of the movie in which Jason becomes the recipient of a sizable amount of wealth, the following gifts are mentioned:
– The gift of Work
– The gift of Money
– The gift of Love
– The gift of Friends
– The gift of Problems
– The gift of a New Day
– The gift of Laughter
– The gift of Gratitude
Out of this list of gifts the one that really stood out in my mind was the one pertaining to problems. The grandfather (played by James Garner) states to the effect that a problem can be viewed as an opportunity to exercise the mind and come up with a solution. As a result, man’s abilities to think and reason would be improved. This to me sounds like a much healthier approach rather than saying “Oh whatever shall I do!” It reminded me of being in high school math classes pondering over how to find the solution that was presented to the class by the teacher.
What a great outlook to have on this subject! Thinking of problems as an opportunity to be embraced with the intent of coming out better as a result. The hope and optimism that you can convey to those facing the problem with you can be contagious and as a result new and greater energy is brought to focus when it comes to attaining the solution.
So as entrepreneurs, we should not only see problems we encounter as gifts, we should also expect for them to come our way. That way, when a problem arrives, we should hopefully be in a better frame of mind to not only deal with but to benefit from them as well!
Okay, if this story doesn’t beat all, I don’t know what does. On September 2nd 2013, 64 year old Diana Nyad became the first person to successfully swim the Florida strait stretching 110 miles from Cuba to Key West. It was her fifth attempt at completing the feat which took 53 hours to complete.
More astonishingly, she has tried on various occasions for the last 35 years to do this! On top of that, she made the journey without the aid of flippers or the protection of a shark cage. I must say, she sure looked worn out as she walked ashore in the United States.
After hearing of this extraordinary tale, I thought to myself “no more excuses.” I find myself thinking over and over, “64 years old and 35 years in the making.” What an inspiration for mankind this woman is! Preaching the mantra of “find a way,” Diana Nyad serves as a standard to follow when it comes to pursuing whatever it is in life that one would hope to achieve. “Find a way,” now those are powerful words and I hear them reverberating in my mind each and every day.
Diana Nyad’s achievement gives us all reason to think about what it is that we truly want and “find a way” to attain it. I will say it again, 64 years old and a story 35 years in the making! It just goes to show that it is never too late to pursue your life ambitions. Thank you Diana for giving us all an example to follow whenever we get presented with so called obstacles as well as a source of inner strength so that each of us may “find a way.” Our lives are all the much better as a result of your truly amazing accomplishment.
Flying lessons, here I come!