Are Self-Confidence and Personal Potential Issues in Your Life?


The traits of self-confidence and personal potential can serve to either enhance or detract from the overall quality of your life.  Depending on how they are harnessed from within, a surplus can either have positive or negative effects while a lack of the two certainly does not stand much chance of being of benefit to the individual.

How are these traits nurtured and what sets the tone for the relative amount that will ensue?  A typical starting place in one’s life begins with the environment at home. Did the parents take an active role in providing positive praise and encouragement for the child or were they non-supportive and belittling?  What was the “energy” that was directed to the child?  Was it a “you can do it!” or “you are no good so why do you try?” type of dose of emotion that was administered?  Too often people are taught to be afraid of failure while other individuals are instilled with the belief that it’s okay to fail and that one should not stop trying to achieve their aim.

Other inner beliefs that can be brought to bear on the resulting self-confidence and personal potential are whether not one perceives themselves to be a good person and whether or not he or she is a capable person. These can be fostered as a result of external positive emotional stimulus or one’s self-generated inner philosophy.  From my observations as a parent as well as a mentor/coach, the impact on the outcomes from external emotional stimulus can be immense!  Why leave things to chance that person who is continuously bombarded with ridicule and harsh criticism will emerge for the better when there is such a greater chance that will result as a result of showering someone with “good vibrations (any Beach Boys fans?).” This is not to say that constructive criticism does not have it’s place when applied properly.  Also, a person’s overall persona should include the ability to handle such feedback in a positive manner.

So what if you are one of the individuals who found themselves in an environment that dumped nothing but negative emotions and comments upon you?  How do you shake the grips of those chains that have their hold upon your psyche?  What do you do when your feelings of self-confidence and personal potential (you can also call it self-worth) are practically non-existent?  Well my take on this question applies to anything that can be causing you harm or discomfort; get away from it!  Are you getting a sunburn from being outside too long?  Get away from it and go inside!  Is being in a room where a bunch of people are smoking making you sick?  Get away from it and go somewhere else!  Do you find yourself with people who attempt to lower your self-confidence and feeling of personal potential by saying mean things to you?  Go find some different people to congregate with.

Of course in extreme cases, seeking out professional help or the aid of a trusted friend may be necessary.  Even those who do overall feel that they are okay may actually stand to benefit from some additional guidance.  I myself am working on a couple of “inner-demons” but I have every confidence that they will be shaken!

Everyone and I mean everyone, regardless of what people say be it positive or negative, deserves the benefits that come to fruition in their life as a result of a high level of self-confidence and personal potential.




What Are Your Levels of Commitment and Desire?

The other day I had the pleasure of watching an episode of Driving with John Chow.  These are occasional videos on YouTube put on by the legendary blogger John Chow.  In his segments he gives various pieces of advice that always prove very informative.  The episode “The 1 Thing You Must Have That Will Make You Rich,” he highlights the importance of desire.

Why is desire important? It is the fire that motivates the individual to action. Desire is the attribute that pushes you to take the steps needed to achieve results.  After having my family live in an apartment following my retirement from the military, I was very much in desire to moving to more spacious surroundings.  I was not satisfied with my circumstances at the time and I was not going to settle for my family living in an apartment for the long term.  The amount of my desire was directly proportional to the focus that I was giving (my wife was also focused on the goal to family out of an apartment and into a house) to the thought of getting relocated.

As a result of persistence and steadfast effort, the goal of moving into a new home was realized!  What a difference it made in our lives.  But as for any goal or aspiration, the amount of desire that is found within is the driving force for moving forward to ultimate achievement.  It boils down to “how bad do you want it?”  It’s one thing to say you want this or that but are you willing to carry out the actions needed in order to achieve your results?  Are you willing to dig in and remain for the long haul or will the first stumbling block be all that it takes for you to give up?

Now there are some things to consider when viewing your goals.  Some good guidance to keep in mind is the SMART acronym when considering goal achievement.  The letters stand for specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time based. If you have thoughts about squeezing coal with your bare hands to form diamonds, be sure to let me know if you are able to pull this off.

In his book “The Science of Getting Rich,” author Wallace Waddles said to the effect that results require the proper action.  But if there is no desire or a lack of desire, the chance of the required action taking place will probably be non-existent.






The 1 Thing You Must Have That Will Make You Rich


Why believing in yourself is essential for success.

As with any goal in life, the inner feeling that what you are pursuing can be accomplished is vital for the desired outcome.  I’m sure that if one asked themselves “why am I doing this if I truly don’t believe that I can?,”  he or she would probably stop right then and there.

But what of those individuals who persevere and keep trying because they are willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish the goal combined with the belief that they will succeed?  Thomas Edison did create the light bulb overnight and how many times did J.K. Rowling submit her work to publishers before someone finally said yes?  Now of course the goals the goals need to be realistic (I’m sure we would all like to be able to fly!) but how long are you willing to work to get what you want?  Is it days, months or would it be years?  I myself did not graduate from college until I was 28 but in my heart I always knew that it was something I would achieve and took advantage of all the opportunities I was presented with in order to make it happen.

If you are faced with issues dealing with a lack of self-confidence, find a friend or partner who can help you with this.  Sometimes we need coaching from others whom we trust prior to getting to a stage where we can develop our own self confidence.  I myself used to plagued with feelings of negative self-worth, thoughts that I would did not deserve good things as well as doubts in my own personal potential but I was able to get over them.  Oh sure there are some things that pop up every once in awhile but they are fleeting moments at best.

Always give focus to your own personal growth and development.  I have read many books on the topic and some of my favorites are “The Master Key System”, “Think and Grow Rich”, and the “Miracle Morning”.  A common denominator that is found in many of such publications is the use of affirmations.  But here is the catch, you have to get yourself to the point that you believe what you are saying is absolutely and unequivocally true.  Getting to this state does not come overnight but it does come.  Without the true belief in what you are telling yourself, you are just uttering empty words.   Think of Muhammad Ali’s signature phrase “I’m the greatest!”  This is a classic example of affirmations at work.

Now go out there and achieve something spectacular!



One entrepreneurs’ story that we all need to learn about.

If you are in need of a glimpse to see what you may face in your entrepreneurial pursuits, you need to see the newly released movie “Joy.”  It’s the story of Joy Mangano, a single mother of 3 children who designed a revolutionary product known as the “Miracle Mop.”  To put it mildly, the story behind this movie blew me away. It deals with perseverance, belief in self, overcoming the numerous obstacles that can come our way and not taking no for an answer.

The movie starts off with a flashback to Joy’s childhood years in a scene that shows her with her half-sister playing with various furniture pieces made out of notebook paper while the voice of her grandmother introduces the audience to the beginnings of Joy’s story.  We are then fast forwarded to Joys’ adult years showing her working as a ticket receptionist for Eastern Airlines.

In addition to facing the daunting task of raising 3 kids, Joy also has to care for her recluse mother who refuses to leave her bedroom.  Her parents are divorced and much of Joys time is taken up by the two of them albeit in separate locations.  One day, her father Rudy announces that he has a new girlfriend and after awhile Joy and her half-sister Peggy are invited for an outing on the water as the guests of the new girlfriend.

During the outing, wine is being drank and a glass is dropped and shatters on the deck of the boat.  Joy cuts her hands on the broken glass.  After her wounds are tended to, she comes up with an idea for a mop that would eliminate the need for touching with the hands.

Now here is where the story begins to get good; a need has been identified and an idea has been conceived. From there the idea goes to the drawing board where the visualization becomes something that can be shared with others.  Joy then comes up with a way to develop an actual product and from there the obstacles of promotion and production are faced.  Along with this, the ensuing drama between Joy and family members reveal the negativity that entrepreneurs can end up having to deal with.

All the roadblocks that entrepreneurs face are displayed in this movie.  The financial, emotional and material aspects of what an up and coming business person can face all intertwine with Joys’ perseverance and determination to succeed. Even though “Joy” accounts for the tough roads that entrepreneurs can sometimes travel; it serves as an inspiration for those who are willing to do what it takes to achieve their dreams.

Click on the link below to find out more about Joy Mangano and her story.

Joy Mangano biography


Setting your priorities

For those who aspire to become entrepreneurs, it is essential to remain focused on the desired goals.  In addition to having self-discipline, one must also have set priorities that dictate where personal effort is to be directed .  Along with clear set priorities, one must also ensure that proper action is being taken with the intent of desired goal achievement.  It is also of paramount importance that one learns to manage his or her activities during their hours awake so that they are effective in attaining desired results.

Being as how the amount of time in a day is fixed, how we manage our activities has a profound effect on the rate at which our goals are achieved.  Each of us has different goals and desires. In order to engage in their pursuit; we must ask ourselves how committed we are to achieving them.  Also in need of consideration are the actions we need to take to bring about the change we seek.  In other words, what are we willing to do and how long are we willing to invest in order to ensure that we achieve that which we desire?

An obstacle that faces each one of us is the myriad of daily tasks we deem necessary for accomplishment on a daily basis.  Of course their are the daily necessities such as meals, sleep, bathing, work, attending to financial matters, etc. Another obstacle that one may have to deal with is the tendency to get distracted.  I myself have had to work on this (still do!) because over the course of time, this can result in many hours lost.  Just now, while writing this post, I found myself getting sidetracked with trying to find out about how to program a certain WordPress plugin dealing with footnotes.  I immediately had to get myself back “on task” with the writing of this post.

When deciding what to do during the course of any given day, you should ask yourself if the items you plan on accomplishing will help you to achieve your goals?  If so, great! If not, maybe it would be a good idea to reevaluate whether or not spending time on them would be a good idea.  Simplification in your overall schedule in order to separate the important things from the not so important things may be what’s needed to provide an extra measure of assurance in accomplishing what you truly wish to.

For those of you who find yourself seemingly overwhelmed with things to get done; give some thought to what is mentioned in this post.  You may find yourself with extra time you did not know you had as a result.



Add some miracle to your morning

Earlier this year I read a wonderful book titled “The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed To Transform Your Life (Before 8AM)” by Hal Elrod.  The author was involved in a near-fatal car accident that left him with severe brain injuries and his self-mobility was greatly reduced.  He underwent a lengthy and painful recovery process while not knowing what life had in store for him in the years to come.

While progressing through his recovery, Elrod learned of the power of affirmations and made a decision to use them to change his life.  His first priority was to restore the belief in himself that he was in possession of a good memory.  He then went on to develop a self-help model that was designed to help anyone using this model/method to allow people to achieve their goals and dreams in life. The acronym name for this model is “Savers” which stands for silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, readings and scribing (which is intended to mean writing).

The primary concept of this model centers on devoting time to each of the areas outlined in the Savers model at the beginning of the day (an early start such as 6 a.m. is encouraged) so that your mind and body become conditioned to perform at optimum levels in each of these areas so that your personal potential along with chances for the realization of goals and dreams are increased.  The author also gives added attention to the need for devoting focus on a daily basis to the areas to the point where the practice becomes habitual in nature and is no longer viewed as a task or drudgery. In addition, specific and detailed examples are provided to help solidify one’s techniques for visualization, creation of affirmations and periods of silence.  This helps provide the reader with confidence in knowing that his/her personal actions are not misguided.

So how can a “Miracle Morning” help you as an aspiring entrepreneur?  By showing the importance of commitment, consistency and focus; this book can show you how to hone your skills in these vital areas so that increased attention is placed on your “target goals.”

In my opinion, “Miracle Morning” definitely rates as a book that every aspiring entrepreneur needs to add to their must-read list.  Robert Kiyosaki (Rich Dad-Poor Dad) definitely gives this book a five-star endorsement!!

Many thanks to Hal Elrod for this gem of a publication.

All the best!




Does the start of your morning determine the success of your day?

I recently read a book that gave me a whole new perspective on how I should be starting out my daily routine.  It seemed that I had found myself in a cycle of getting up, going to work, coming home, letting the evening slide by, going to bed and repeating the cycle the next day. Talk about a real life version of the movie “Groundhog Day”!

Author Hal Elrod ( has composed a masterpiece of a solution to this dilemma in his book entitled “The Miracle Morning”.  I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “early to bed early to rise” etc. etc. but the book points out that there is some truth to this adage. It says that if you get yourself into a disciplined routine of doing tasks that known successful people do, you stand a good chance of becoming successful yourself.  A purpose of the Miracle Morning is to devote the beginning portion of your day towards personal growth and development which as a result could have your enjoying a more fulfilling and rewarding life.  Throughout the book the reader is reminded that we all deserve a fabulous life but that proper actions are needed in order to achieve the desired results.

A key nugget (and a gold nugget at that!) of information that the author provides are activities which he describes as the “SAVERS.”  Each of the letters stands for an activity that will help you get into a proper success-oriented mindset.

– “S” is for silence.  Suggested techniques for engaging in silence and meditation are provided. This is for the purpose of being able to attain clarity and from there a sense of purpose is realized.

– “A” is for affirmations.  Remember boxer Muhammad Ali saying over and over “I’m the greatest!”?  These were affirmations at work and guess what, his record stands for itself. You will be shown how to develop affirmations that will tune your mind into achieving desired goals.

– “V” is for visualization.  Learning how to imagine desired outcomes in your mind and feeling as though you are actually experiencing what it is that you want is key!

– “E” is for exercise.  Part of the Miracle Morning routine involves a regular routine of exercise.  This contributes to not only your physical health, but your mental alertness as well.  A simple walk around the block, ride on the bicycle or a good run can work wonders on revving your energy levels and readiness to fully engage in the activities of the new day.

– “R” is for reading.  In order to develop personally, one needs to be learning new things on a regular basis.  Read books on topics that not only interest you but will also help you on your quest to pursue greatness.   Learning is a lifelong experience that should never stop.

– “S” is for scripting.  The intent of this is to convey the importance of writing (which you can also call scripting).  Recent studies have shown that the physical act of writing something down as opposed to texting something into a digital device such as an iPhone is more effective in enforcing thoughts into the brain. I have my notepad at the ready!

As an aspiring entrepreneur, the information presented in Elrod’s book “The Miracle Morning” is something that you cannot afford to pass up.  If you are struggling to find purpose as well as learning what it takes to get the jump start to propel you forward, this book may be just the key you need to get you on the right path!

Here’s to you “Making It Happen”!

Oh yes…………Thanks Hal!!


Are there demons within you?

At various times in my life I can recall feelings within me that basically gave me the impression that for one thing or another, I simply was not deserving of it or was not good enough to pursue it. Or even if I did pursue something, sometimes a nagging thought lingered within me saying that I would not get good at it. These negative feelings that I allowed to hold me back at different phases of my life I coined as my “inner demons”.

What causes these feelings of self-doubt to generate?  My feeling is that it has to do a lot with upbringing as well as various social taboos that get imposed upon us. People who in their minds are wishing us good by not having harm fall upon us can actually be a source of harm themselves.  How about you, have you ever experienced what it was like dealing with such demons within you?  If not, consider yourself fortunate and chances are that you know someone who does deal with feelings that generate from an overall lack of self-confidence.

How can such a situation apply to the aspiring online entrepreneur?  Well, chances are that if deep inside you don’t think you will be able to get something done; those feelings of self-doubt have a strong probability of seeing that you won’t get that particular something accomplished.  Now every once in awhile there is the occasion where someone has an unexpected positive outcome and experiences success but in general the end result won’t be the desired one.

It wasn’t until recently that I came across a simple method of how to deal with what could be described as a somewhat crippling lack of self-confidence. In his book “ The Motivation Manifesto,” author Brendan Burchard gives reference to an enemy that stands in the way of us achieving our personal potential.  He names it “Defiance” and describes it as a 3-headed monster that comes to life whenever one wishes to take a risk.  “Defiance” is what causes us to experience the feelings of anxiety, trepidation and self-doubt.  The three heads of this monster also have names; they are Doubt, Delay and Division.  To combat each of these three entities, the author offers a remedy for each.  To combat Doubt, the author tells us to and gives suggestions to develop ourselves so that we can replace it with faith. To counter Delay, Mr. Burchard tells us to take action. Of course this does not mean that one should take action haphazardly, but know when the moment is right and act upon it.

Now I found the description of Division most interesting; an “eyeless, jet-black serpent head” whose “goal is to shred our humanity by making us go blind to the good in others”. It is what prevents us from coming into contact and interacting with others. Burchard teaches us to make the transition from Division through the use of love. Not love in the romantic sense, but from a sense of being able to see and accept the good that is within those around us.

It is my opinion that the implementation of the wonderful information that Mr. Burchard shares with the readers of his book, The Motivation Manifesto, will prove themselves to be tools that are nothing short of invaluable to those wishing to be entrepreneurs.  They will serve to remove obstacles, accelerate people towards there goes and enjoy the interaction that comes from dealing with like-minded individuals.  But don’t sell yourself short by confining your readings to this post; that would not do you the reader justice.  Allow yourself the opportunity to fully experience what this treasure of a book has to offer and get a copy of The Motivation Manifesto for yourself!

My sincere and heartfelt thanks to Brendan Burchard for this wonderful contribution to the good of us all.


Not feeling motivated? Take action!

This is the first post that I have written this year.  Up until this point I had found myself at a loss for what to write about.  Was this a case of “writer’s block” or was it just a lack of motivation?  I was finding it difficult to motivate myself to write.

Earlier this month I read “Six Figures in Six Months” by Peter Voogd.  Thank goodness that I did!  In his book the author mentions that it is action that results in motivation being generated.  It’s not just a moment of action but action that takes place on a frequency to where it becomes habitual.  How many of us feel that we must first feel motivated in order to act? Now in the case of a situation involving imminent danger motivation (or paralyzing fear) could come into play.  But the author brings up the point that in order for a person to continuously feel motivated about doing something, the person must push themselves to the point of taking applicable action on a regular basis for the feelings of motivation to come about.

The topic of establishing rituals for the purpose of facilitating that process of goal accomplishment is discussed.  This involves embarking on a course of regular actions that apply to the goal in question.  The purpose of the regular actions are to make the tasks shift from being perceived as a chore to where they become habits.

An example of this which I am currently experiencing is my taking the time to ride a bicycle on a regular basis. After taking the first ride one day, I decided to make a commitment to setting a new time for when I would take the next ride.  Oh sure, I was experiencing mental hurdles that came about from the feeling that both my legs would give out on me but I pushed on. I was very surprised at the realization that if I did not go for a ride as soon as I got home; I would succumb to the temptation of sitting down either in front of the TV or the computer and basically get no exercise for the rest of the day.

At first, there were several occasions where I would not go through with taking the bike ride but I noticed that once I was in a rhythm of taking rides on a regular basis, it became much easier.  I was also more inclined to get on the bike and go and not experience the mental hangups that I was dealing with previously.  Over the course of time, the bike rides have been getting easier physically and I am taking rides over longer distances.

Now you might ask yourself how this information would apply to the aspiring entrepreneur? Well if one decides to “wait for the perfect moment” of inspiration to come, it may never happen.  Voogt states to the effect that one must become clear on what it is that they want to accomplish. Not only does the need to be clear apply to any given day; it also applies to what one wishes to achieve in the upcoming weeks as well as months.

In addition, he recommends that at the beginning of each and every day, a decision (in writing) is made as to what is going to be accomplished.  From there, the individual needs to hold themselves accountable to ensuring that the task for that day ends up being accomplished. The necessity for staying on task and resisting any distractions is emphasized.

So with this in mind, performing things on a regular basis to the point where they become habitual (some studies say 21 days?) will help do away with the perceived drudgery that could ensue.  As a result, the journey taken towards goal accomplishment stands a much greater chance of being a relatively easier one.

My thanks to the author for sharing this concept which has make a positive impression upon me.



Keep it Even between Work and Family

If you are an up and coming entrepreneur with family members, it is important to maintain balance between work and family.  Focusing too much on work can lead to feelings of resentment from your family members from a lack of attention.  Of course you can tell them that your efforts are with their best interest in mind but statements such as these are not always readily accepted internally.

Such feelings of discourse can result in an amplified state of tension on the family scene and spill over to what you are trying to get done with your entrepreneurial pursuits.  They can become cobwebs that get in the way of your concentration and go towards increasing stress levels.  I’m sure you will agree that this is not a good thing.

Earlier today I was fortunate to come across and article in that gives 8 tips on how to achieve a state of balance between work and family.  If you are currently faced with such a dilemma or know of someone who is; this article will provide you with some good reading.  My thanks to the author, Stan Popovich.

8 Ways to Reduce the Stress of Balancing Work and Family