The traits of self-confidence and personal potential can serve to either enhance or detract from the overall quality of your life. Depending on how they are harnessed from within, a surplus can either have positive or negative effects while a lack of the two certainly does not stand much chance of being of benefit to the individual.
How are these traits nurtured and what sets the tone for the relative amount that will ensue? A typical starting place in one’s life begins with the environment at home. Did the parents take an active role in providing positive praise and encouragement for the child or were they non-supportive and belittling? What was the “energy” that was directed to the child? Was it a “you can do it!” or “you are no good so why do you try?” type of dose of emotion that was administered? Too often people are taught to be afraid of failure while other individuals are instilled with the belief that it’s okay to fail and that one should not stop trying to achieve their aim.
Other inner beliefs that can be brought to bear on the resulting self-confidence and personal potential are whether not one perceives themselves to be a good person and whether or not he or she is a capable person. These can be fostered as a result of external positive emotional stimulus or one’s self-generated inner philosophy. From my observations as a parent as well as a mentor/coach, the impact on the outcomes from external emotional stimulus can be immense! Why leave things to chance that person who is continuously bombarded with ridicule and harsh criticism will emerge for the better when there is such a greater chance that will result as a result of showering someone with “good vibrations (any Beach Boys fans?).” This is not to say that constructive criticism does not have it’s place when applied properly. Also, a person’s overall persona should include the ability to handle such feedback in a positive manner.
So what if you are one of the individuals who found themselves in an environment that dumped nothing but negative emotions and comments upon you? How do you shake the grips of those chains that have their hold upon your psyche? What do you do when your feelings of self-confidence and personal potential (you can also call it self-worth) are practically non-existent? Well my take on this question applies to anything that can be causing you harm or discomfort; get away from it! Are you getting a sunburn from being outside too long? Get away from it and go inside! Is being in a room where a bunch of people are smoking making you sick? Get away from it and go somewhere else! Do you find yourself with people who attempt to lower your self-confidence and feeling of personal potential by saying mean things to you? Go find some different people to congregate with.
Of course in extreme cases, seeking out professional help or the aid of a trusted friend may be necessary. Even those who do overall feel that they are okay may actually stand to benefit from some additional guidance. I myself am working on a couple of “inner-demons” but I have every confidence that they will be shaken!
Everyone and I mean everyone, regardless of what people say be it positive or negative, deserves the benefits that come to fruition in their life as a result of a high level of self-confidence and personal potential.