Are Self-Confidence and Personal Potential Issues in Your Life?


The traits of self-confidence and personal potential can serve to either enhance or detract from the overall quality of your life.  Depending on how they are harnessed from within, a surplus can either have positive or negative effects while a lack of the two certainly does not stand much chance of being of benefit to the individual.

How are these traits nurtured and what sets the tone for the relative amount that will ensue?  A typical starting place in one’s life begins with the environment at home. Did the parents take an active role in providing positive praise and encouragement for the child or were they non-supportive and belittling?  What was the “energy” that was directed to the child?  Was it a “you can do it!” or “you are no good so why do you try?” type of dose of emotion that was administered?  Too often people are taught to be afraid of failure while other individuals are instilled with the belief that it’s okay to fail and that one should not stop trying to achieve their aim.

Other inner beliefs that can be brought to bear on the resulting self-confidence and personal potential are whether not one perceives themselves to be a good person and whether or not he or she is a capable person. These can be fostered as a result of external positive emotional stimulus or one’s self-generated inner philosophy.  From my observations as a parent as well as a mentor/coach, the impact on the outcomes from external emotional stimulus can be immense!  Why leave things to chance that person who is continuously bombarded with ridicule and harsh criticism will emerge for the better when there is such a greater chance that will result as a result of showering someone with “good vibrations (any Beach Boys fans?).” This is not to say that constructive criticism does not have it’s place when applied properly.  Also, a person’s overall persona should include the ability to handle such feedback in a positive manner.

So what if you are one of the individuals who found themselves in an environment that dumped nothing but negative emotions and comments upon you?  How do you shake the grips of those chains that have their hold upon your psyche?  What do you do when your feelings of self-confidence and personal potential (you can also call it self-worth) are practically non-existent?  Well my take on this question applies to anything that can be causing you harm or discomfort; get away from it!  Are you getting a sunburn from being outside too long?  Get away from it and go inside!  Is being in a room where a bunch of people are smoking making you sick?  Get away from it and go somewhere else!  Do you find yourself with people who attempt to lower your self-confidence and feeling of personal potential by saying mean things to you?  Go find some different people to congregate with.

Of course in extreme cases, seeking out professional help or the aid of a trusted friend may be necessary.  Even those who do overall feel that they are okay may actually stand to benefit from some additional guidance.  I myself am working on a couple of “inner-demons” but I have every confidence that they will be shaken!

Everyone and I mean everyone, regardless of what people say be it positive or negative, deserves the benefits that come to fruition in their life as a result of a high level of self-confidence and personal potential.




Help Yourself to some Principles for High Powered Achievement!

Just got done reading a great post from “” which listed some guidelines to follow to help you achieve a higher level of personal achievement.  In this article, author Jonathan Wells lists 11 principles to follow to help you on your path to greater personal achievement.  Of the 11, the one that immediately resonated with me deals with keeping your focus.  With all the fast paced chaos ( I like to call it the big rush to get nowhere!) in today’s society, it is important to be able to filter out all the unnecessary distractions we get bombarded with and to be able to divert our attention to what is truly important for us.

Having to direct efforts on a daily basis to a day job in addition to having a life at home, I found myself frequently sapped of the needed mental energy to engage in pursuits for my own personal fulfillment.  The temptation to melt into the couch and watch meaningless TV was strong!  Even while I was engaged while writing this blog post I was called to dinner, abducted by an episode of “Mozart in The Jungle,” and the propositioned with the opportunity to work on chess puzzles.

The author does mention the need to avoid the tendency to multitask and instead to do one thing at a time.  This is with the intent of achieving a better result of the completed task. So prior to engaging in the solving of chess puzzles, I made it a point to finish this blog post first.

So take a look at “11 High Powered Achievement Principles” and see how the application of these can benefit you in your pursuits.  My thanks to author Jonathan Wells for his contribution to all of us.




Give Yourself a Jump-Start towards Goal Achievement

We all have goals that we want to achieve but sometimes (especially at the end of a long day while at work!), we just don’t seem to have the energy or desire to pursue the things we want.

Or, it’s possible that you could have all the motivation in the world so to speak but your efforts are not taking you in the direction you want to go. I recently came across an article that I would love to share with you that provides four easy to understand tips that not only make sense but provide great guidance on how to pursue goal achievement.  It basically boils down to a) knowing the real reasons behind pursuing your goal, b) modeling your efforts after those who have already accomplished what you want to do, c) staying away from those individuals whose negative energy can detract you from your efforts ( I call them “happiness vampires!”) and d) how to establish a goal that is realistic.

My thanks to author Zohaib Akhlaq for giving us a great checklist to use on how to go after what we want out of life!  Click the link below to see.

4 Sure-Fire Ways to Motivate Yourself to Reach Your Goals

Take a look, develop that goal in your mind and go for it!!


Action is the Key to Achievement!

When I first became aware of the Law of Attraction sometime back in 2006, I thought that all you had to do was to think about something hard and long enough and Voilá!, my desire would come to fruition.  It wasn’t until after reading “Think and Grow Rich” and “The Science of Getting Rich” that I became aware that something else was required.  In order for the desired result to present itself to me, I had to perform the necessary action(s) first.

Things just weren’t going to happen as a result of my thinking about them, I had to initially become aware of what I specifically wanted and then let someone else know of my wants in addition to taking the steps needed to achieve my wishes. In addition to making my wants known (either to myself or others), I realized that I needed to pick something that was specific as well as realistic and develop a plan that would start me on the path to achieving my goal.

Ever since I can remember, I had wanted to experience what it was like to sit in the seat of a plane and operate the controls needed to cause the plane to take off.  I knew that flying lessons were not cheap and I was not inclined to commit to the expense of taking them. My wife, being aware that this was always a goal of mine, came across a
Groupon offer for an introductory flying lesson.  Lo and behold, the lesson also included being able to sit in the seat of an aircraft and with the Instructors’ guidance, start the engine, taxi to the runway, open the throttle and take off!  I decided after that my curiosity was satisfied and that I would not be signing up for additional lessons.

This was an instance of a goal being realized as a result of letting others know what I wanted.  Here is a case where a goal was achieved as a result of my taking a specific and relevant action.

During a visit to Holland in 1986, I saw my first Gazelle 3-speed commuter bicycle.  I was immediately impressed with its functionality and design and knew right away that I wanted to have one.  At the time I decided that it would be too much of a hassle taking one on the ferry back to England and thought “I’ll pick one up next time.”  Before I knew it, I was due for transfer back to the United States and there was not a bike shop to be found that carried the bike that I wanted.  Fast forward 30 years to the present and with the help of the Internet, I found a bike shop within reasonable distance that had exactly what I wanted.  After I was done hyperventilating over the price, I made the commitment, paid my money and drove over to pick it up.  I have been happy with my investment ever since!  My wife now has the ladies model!

So the next time you think of something that you want; come up with a plan and take action to get it!

All the best!

Erik von Werlhof


What Are Your Levels of Commitment and Desire?

The other day I had the pleasure of watching an episode of Driving with John Chow.  These are occasional videos on YouTube put on by the legendary blogger John Chow.  In his segments he gives various pieces of advice that always prove very informative.  The episode “The 1 Thing You Must Have That Will Make You Rich,” he highlights the importance of desire.

Why is desire important? It is the fire that motivates the individual to action. Desire is the attribute that pushes you to take the steps needed to achieve results.  After having my family live in an apartment following my retirement from the military, I was very much in desire to moving to more spacious surroundings.  I was not satisfied with my circumstances at the time and I was not going to settle for my family living in an apartment for the long term.  The amount of my desire was directly proportional to the focus that I was giving (my wife was also focused on the goal to family out of an apartment and into a house) to the thought of getting relocated.

As a result of persistence and steadfast effort, the goal of moving into a new home was realized!  What a difference it made in our lives.  But as for any goal or aspiration, the amount of desire that is found within is the driving force for moving forward to ultimate achievement.  It boils down to “how bad do you want it?”  It’s one thing to say you want this or that but are you willing to carry out the actions needed in order to achieve your results?  Are you willing to dig in and remain for the long haul or will the first stumbling block be all that it takes for you to give up?

Now there are some things to consider when viewing your goals.  Some good guidance to keep in mind is the SMART acronym when considering goal achievement.  The letters stand for specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time based. If you have thoughts about squeezing coal with your bare hands to form diamonds, be sure to let me know if you are able to pull this off.

In his book “The Science of Getting Rich,” author Wallace Waddles said to the effect that results require the proper action.  But if there is no desire or a lack of desire, the chance of the required action taking place will probably be non-existent.






The 1 Thing You Must Have That Will Make You Rich


Why believing in yourself is essential for success.

As with any goal in life, the inner feeling that what you are pursuing can be accomplished is vital for the desired outcome.  I’m sure that if one asked themselves “why am I doing this if I truly don’t believe that I can?,”  he or she would probably stop right then and there.

But what of those individuals who persevere and keep trying because they are willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish the goal combined with the belief that they will succeed?  Thomas Edison did create the light bulb overnight and how many times did J.K. Rowling submit her work to publishers before someone finally said yes?  Now of course the goals the goals need to be realistic (I’m sure we would all like to be able to fly!) but how long are you willing to work to get what you want?  Is it days, months or would it be years?  I myself did not graduate from college until I was 28 but in my heart I always knew that it was something I would achieve and took advantage of all the opportunities I was presented with in order to make it happen.

If you are faced with issues dealing with a lack of self-confidence, find a friend or partner who can help you with this.  Sometimes we need coaching from others whom we trust prior to getting to a stage where we can develop our own self confidence.  I myself used to plagued with feelings of negative self-worth, thoughts that I would did not deserve good things as well as doubts in my own personal potential but I was able to get over them.  Oh sure there are some things that pop up every once in awhile but they are fleeting moments at best.

Always give focus to your own personal growth and development.  I have read many books on the topic and some of my favorites are “The Master Key System”, “Think and Grow Rich”, and the “Miracle Morning”.  A common denominator that is found in many of such publications is the use of affirmations.  But here is the catch, you have to get yourself to the point that you believe what you are saying is absolutely and unequivocally true.  Getting to this state does not come overnight but it does come.  Without the true belief in what you are telling yourself, you are just uttering empty words.   Think of Muhammad Ali’s signature phrase “I’m the greatest!”  This is a classic example of affirmations at work.

Now go out there and achieve something spectacular!



One entrepreneurs’ story that we all need to learn about.

If you are in need of a glimpse to see what you may face in your entrepreneurial pursuits, you need to see the newly released movie “Joy.”  It’s the story of Joy Mangano, a single mother of 3 children who designed a revolutionary product known as the “Miracle Mop.”  To put it mildly, the story behind this movie blew me away. It deals with perseverance, belief in self, overcoming the numerous obstacles that can come our way and not taking no for an answer.

The movie starts off with a flashback to Joy’s childhood years in a scene that shows her with her half-sister playing with various furniture pieces made out of notebook paper while the voice of her grandmother introduces the audience to the beginnings of Joy’s story.  We are then fast forwarded to Joys’ adult years showing her working as a ticket receptionist for Eastern Airlines.

In addition to facing the daunting task of raising 3 kids, Joy also has to care for her recluse mother who refuses to leave her bedroom.  Her parents are divorced and much of Joys time is taken up by the two of them albeit in separate locations.  One day, her father Rudy announces that he has a new girlfriend and after awhile Joy and her half-sister Peggy are invited for an outing on the water as the guests of the new girlfriend.

During the outing, wine is being drank and a glass is dropped and shatters on the deck of the boat.  Joy cuts her hands on the broken glass.  After her wounds are tended to, she comes up with an idea for a mop that would eliminate the need for touching with the hands.

Now here is where the story begins to get good; a need has been identified and an idea has been conceived. From there the idea goes to the drawing board where the visualization becomes something that can be shared with others.  Joy then comes up with a way to develop an actual product and from there the obstacles of promotion and production are faced.  Along with this, the ensuing drama between Joy and family members reveal the negativity that entrepreneurs can end up having to deal with.

All the roadblocks that entrepreneurs face are displayed in this movie.  The financial, emotional and material aspects of what an up and coming business person can face all intertwine with Joys’ perseverance and determination to succeed. Even though “Joy” accounts for the tough roads that entrepreneurs can sometimes travel; it serves as an inspiration for those who are willing to do what it takes to achieve their dreams.

Click on the link below to find out more about Joy Mangano and her story.

Joy Mangano biography


Setting your priorities

For those who aspire to become entrepreneurs, it is essential to remain focused on the desired goals.  In addition to having self-discipline, one must also have set priorities that dictate where personal effort is to be directed .  Along with clear set priorities, one must also ensure that proper action is being taken with the intent of desired goal achievement.  It is also of paramount importance that one learns to manage his or her activities during their hours awake so that they are effective in attaining desired results.

Being as how the amount of time in a day is fixed, how we manage our activities has a profound effect on the rate at which our goals are achieved.  Each of us has different goals and desires. In order to engage in their pursuit; we must ask ourselves how committed we are to achieving them.  Also in need of consideration are the actions we need to take to bring about the change we seek.  In other words, what are we willing to do and how long are we willing to invest in order to ensure that we achieve that which we desire?

An obstacle that faces each one of us is the myriad of daily tasks we deem necessary for accomplishment on a daily basis.  Of course their are the daily necessities such as meals, sleep, bathing, work, attending to financial matters, etc. Another obstacle that one may have to deal with is the tendency to get distracted.  I myself have had to work on this (still do!) because over the course of time, this can result in many hours lost.  Just now, while writing this post, I found myself getting sidetracked with trying to find out about how to program a certain WordPress plugin dealing with footnotes.  I immediately had to get myself back “on task” with the writing of this post.

When deciding what to do during the course of any given day, you should ask yourself if the items you plan on accomplishing will help you to achieve your goals?  If so, great! If not, maybe it would be a good idea to reevaluate whether or not spending time on them would be a good idea.  Simplification in your overall schedule in order to separate the important things from the not so important things may be what’s needed to provide an extra measure of assurance in accomplishing what you truly wish to.

For those of you who find yourself seemingly overwhelmed with things to get done; give some thought to what is mentioned in this post.  You may find yourself with extra time you did not know you had as a result.



Add some miracle to your morning

Earlier this year I read a wonderful book titled “The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed To Transform Your Life (Before 8AM)” by Hal Elrod.  The author was involved in a near-fatal car accident that left him with severe brain injuries and his self-mobility was greatly reduced.  He underwent a lengthy and painful recovery process while not knowing what life had in store for him in the years to come.

While progressing through his recovery, Elrod learned of the power of affirmations and made a decision to use them to change his life.  His first priority was to restore the belief in himself that he was in possession of a good memory.  He then went on to develop a self-help model that was designed to help anyone using this model/method to allow people to achieve their goals and dreams in life. The acronym name for this model is “Savers” which stands for silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, readings and scribing (which is intended to mean writing).

The primary concept of this model centers on devoting time to each of the areas outlined in the Savers model at the beginning of the day (an early start such as 6 a.m. is encouraged) so that your mind and body become conditioned to perform at optimum levels in each of these areas so that your personal potential along with chances for the realization of goals and dreams are increased.  The author also gives added attention to the need for devoting focus on a daily basis to the areas to the point where the practice becomes habitual in nature and is no longer viewed as a task or drudgery. In addition, specific and detailed examples are provided to help solidify one’s techniques for visualization, creation of affirmations and periods of silence.  This helps provide the reader with confidence in knowing that his/her personal actions are not misguided.

So how can a “Miracle Morning” help you as an aspiring entrepreneur?  By showing the importance of commitment, consistency and focus; this book can show you how to hone your skills in these vital areas so that increased attention is placed on your “target goals.”

In my opinion, “Miracle Morning” definitely rates as a book that every aspiring entrepreneur needs to add to their must-read list.  Robert Kiyosaki (Rich Dad-Poor Dad) definitely gives this book a five-star endorsement!!

Many thanks to Hal Elrod for this gem of a publication.

All the best!




Does the start of your morning determine the success of your day?

I recently read a book that gave me a whole new perspective on how I should be starting out my daily routine.  It seemed that I had found myself in a cycle of getting up, going to work, coming home, letting the evening slide by, going to bed and repeating the cycle the next day. Talk about a real life version of the movie “Groundhog Day”!

Author Hal Elrod ( has composed a masterpiece of a solution to this dilemma in his book entitled “The Miracle Morning”.  I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “early to bed early to rise” etc. etc. but the book points out that there is some truth to this adage. It says that if you get yourself into a disciplined routine of doing tasks that known successful people do, you stand a good chance of becoming successful yourself.  A purpose of the Miracle Morning is to devote the beginning portion of your day towards personal growth and development which as a result could have your enjoying a more fulfilling and rewarding life.  Throughout the book the reader is reminded that we all deserve a fabulous life but that proper actions are needed in order to achieve the desired results.

A key nugget (and a gold nugget at that!) of information that the author provides are activities which he describes as the “SAVERS.”  Each of the letters stands for an activity that will help you get into a proper success-oriented mindset.

– “S” is for silence.  Suggested techniques for engaging in silence and meditation are provided. This is for the purpose of being able to attain clarity and from there a sense of purpose is realized.

– “A” is for affirmations.  Remember boxer Muhammad Ali saying over and over “I’m the greatest!”?  These were affirmations at work and guess what, his record stands for itself. You will be shown how to develop affirmations that will tune your mind into achieving desired goals.

– “V” is for visualization.  Learning how to imagine desired outcomes in your mind and feeling as though you are actually experiencing what it is that you want is key!

– “E” is for exercise.  Part of the Miracle Morning routine involves a regular routine of exercise.  This contributes to not only your physical health, but your mental alertness as well.  A simple walk around the block, ride on the bicycle or a good run can work wonders on revving your energy levels and readiness to fully engage in the activities of the new day.

– “R” is for reading.  In order to develop personally, one needs to be learning new things on a regular basis.  Read books on topics that not only interest you but will also help you on your quest to pursue greatness.   Learning is a lifelong experience that should never stop.

– “S” is for scripting.  The intent of this is to convey the importance of writing (which you can also call scripting).  Recent studies have shown that the physical act of writing something down as opposed to texting something into a digital device such as an iPhone is more effective in enforcing thoughts into the brain. I have my notepad at the ready!

As an aspiring entrepreneur, the information presented in Elrod’s book “The Miracle Morning” is something that you cannot afford to pass up.  If you are struggling to find purpose as well as learning what it takes to get the jump start to propel you forward, this book may be just the key you need to get you on the right path!

Here’s to you “Making It Happen”!

Oh yes…………Thanks Hal!!